Best Female Sex Fantasies

No.10 Domination (her dominating you)

Women love a big strong man who can sweep them off their feet and carry them into the sunset -- but you may be surprised to learn that one of the top female sex fantasies is to have that same big strong man begging for sexual release in the bedroom. The entire scenario revolves around you worshipping her body and begging for her attention. Why? She gets to be in control while enjoying total devotion from her man in the process. What more could she want?

No.9 Domination (you dominating her)

The advent of the metrosexual is most commonly blamed for this top 10 female sex fantasy. It seems that modern, independent women actually prefer real men who aren’t afraid to embrace their testosterone. This woman fantasizes about you pinning her down and thrusting her thighs apart with your knee. She wants to feel your fingers snake through her hair and pull her head back; she wants to feel your teeth on her shoulder; she wants to be owned -- if only while in the bedroom (after which, she’ll want a clear return to equality). This win-win female sex fantasy scenario allows her to fully indulge her femininity, while still espousing the merits of feminism.

No.8 Teacher/student

You’ll be thrilled to know that the Britney Spears fantasy isn’t just for men: Women love the idea of dressing up like a schoolgirl and parading about for your viewing pleasure. Many would even like to take it a step further, playing the naughty tart who won’t stop teasing you until you pull her over your knee and give her the spanking she craves. That’s right: Loads and loads of grown women fantasize about getting a proper spanking from their man. A spanking from you is exciting for two reasons: Not only does this mild show of dominance hurt so good, but it also usually leads straight into hot, hot sex.

No.7 Sex with a stranger

Most women wouldn’t have the chutzpah to act out this top 10 female sex fantasy, but you’d better believe that most have thoroughly enjoyed thinking about it. No-strings-attached sex is something many women would love to experience, but most are dissuaded from it thanks to a lofty load of self-produced guilt. Nevertheless, her libido definitely gets fired up at the idea of a gorgeous male approaching her in a dark, smoky bar and taking her back to his room for a long, hot night of wild sex. This female sex fantasy appeals to her naughtiest side -- the kinky one that rarely sees the light of day. And just as if you were performing the real thing, you and your woman would definitely want to enjoy this fantasy using a Durex® Performax™: A condom combined with a special lubricant to get things going.

No.6 Threesome with another woman

These days, it’s fairly common for straight women to get down with other women now and again, making this top 10 female sex fantasy a not-so-unrealistic possibility. That being said, this threesome fantasy rarely involves you getting playtime with the second hottie, as most girlfriends do not want to see their man touch another woman. In this scenario, you’re meant to play voyeur until your woman is ready for something more hardcore. This allows her to experience the best of both worlds without having to worry about things like jealousy or sharing.

No.5 Threesome with two men

This top 10 female sex fantasy involves the woman being worshipped and adored by two gorgeous men. These men are typically heterosexual and, therefore, only interested in the woman -- which translates into a whole lot of action for her. Her sex fantasy might be as innocent as being penetrated by one man while performing oral sex on the other or it might go further. This female sex fantasy is the ultimate taboo for many women, which makes it all the more fun to imagine.

No.4 Voyeurism

If you think women don’t enjoy watching other people get it on, you’re completely mistaken. Your woman likes to watch for the same reasons as you do: It’s erotic, exhilarating and slightly taboo. She may fantasize about peeping through the neighbor’s bedroom window, spying on a kinky couple in the park or even catching a full-on orgy from the sidelines. Believe it when we tell you she enjoys "watching" just as much as you do; it allows to her be naughty without getting her hands dirty, so to speak.

No.3 Force fantasies

As mentioned in our common female fantasies article, force fantasies are massively popular among women. Most psychologists believe this top 10 female sex fantasy allows a woman to have the wild, dirty sex she craves, without having to suffer the guilt that often follows. These female sex fantasies usually involve a gorgeous man carrying her off to his bedroom and quickly getting down to business. She’ll protest as he tears her clothing off and expertly arouses her body, but on the inside, she’ll love every minute of it.

No.2 Exhibitionism

She might cringe when you bring up the topic of making homemade porn flicks, but your woman has probably fantasized about doing precisely that at one time or another. Unfortunately, most women are far too body-conscious to experiment with such things, making this a top 10 female sex fantasy, as opposed to a reality. Believe it or not, some women even take this desire to the next level, fantasizing about others watching as you shag her silly in a public place

No.1 Private dancer

Most women wouldn’t have the nerve to strip in a public setting, but this top 10 female sex fantasy definitely involves taking it all off. She loves the idea of tantalizing you with a striptease, and she’d love to give you a private lap dance. Why? Your enjoyment tells her you find her attractive, and your erection tells her she has control -- a potent combination that women simply can’t get enough of. For more fun, she can even place your Durex® on you -- another way to solidify her complete domination of the fantasy

Sleep Apnea May Raise Dementia Risk In Women

Elderly women who experience sleep apnea have a higher risk of developing mild cognitive impairment or dementia, new research finds.

The study found that elderly women who began the study without dementia had 85 percent higher odds of developing mild cognitive impairment or dementia over the next five years if they had 15 or more sleep apnea events per hour of sleep.

"This was a prospective study of elderly women followed over time to understand the relationship of sleep apnea and cognitive impairment or dementia," explained study co-author Dr. Susan Redline, a researcher in the division of sleep medicine at Brigham and Women's Hospital in Boston.

"We found a very high prevalence of untreated sleep apnea -- about one third of the women had sleep apnea, and those women had about an 80 percent increased risk of developing cognitive impairment or dementia during the study," said Redline.

Although this study wasn't designed to uncover the mechanism by which repeated oxygen deprivation might cause dementia, Redline noted that it may harm brain health by affecting the way the brain constantly replenishes its cells. More research needs to be done to find the exact mechanism, she added.

The findings are published in the Aug. 10 issue of the Journal of the American Medical Association.

The study included 298 women who did not have dementia at the start of the study. The average age of the women was approximately 82. All of the women underwent an overnight sleep study using sensors and computerized monitoring (polysomnography) between 2002 and 2004.

One hundred and five women were diagnosed with sleep-disordered breathing. That meant they had 15 or more sleep apnea episodes per hour of sleep. During those episodes, the brain was temporarily deprived of oxygen.

Five years after the sleep study, women were given cognitive function tests to assess their brain health. When the researchers compared the brain health of women who had sleep-disordered breathing and oxygen deprivation to women who did not, they found that sleep-disordered breathing significantly increased the risk of mild cognitive impairment and dementia.

The researchers also adjusted the data to account for other factors that could contribute to cognitive impairment or dementia, such as age, education, body-mass index, diabetes, smoking, medication use and baseline scores for brain health, according to the study.

They found that 31 percent of women with normal night-time breathing patterns developed cognitive impairment over the study period, compared to 45 percent of the women who had sleep-disordered breathing. That translates to 85 percent higher relative odds of cognitive impairment or dementia for the women with sleep-disordered breathing.

They also found that the cognitive impairment was associated with bouts of oxygen deprivation caused by sleep apnea, but not with fragmented sleep (such as arousal or waking after falling asleep) or sleep duration.

Since sleep-disordered breathing affects up to 60 percent of the elderly, any association between sleep apnea and cognitive impairment -- even a modest one -- could have a major public health impact, the researchers noted.

But whether or not treating sleep-disordered breathing could reduce the risk of dementia or cognitive impairment is the "million dollar question," said Redline. She said other research suggests that several months of sleep apnea therapy may help improve brain function, but that much larger studies with longer treatment periods and a more diverse population need to be done.

"This could be a chicken-and-egg problem," pointed out geriatric psychiatrist Dr. Gary Kennedy from Montefiore Medical Center in New York City. While it may be that sleep-disordered breathing contributes to cognitive impairment or dementia, the converse could be true; dementia might contribute to sleep-disordered breathing somehow, he said.

Still, said Kennedy, "this is one of those rare, positive and hopeful articles. If the abnormalities in getting oxygen are what's causing the damage to the brain, it's a potentially reversible or preventable problem."

10 Tips to Stop Hating Your Body Enough for Sex

10 Tips to Stop Hating Your Body Enough for Sex - Nothing we can say will make you stop hating your body. That’s a thought pattern carved deeply into the crevices of your brain that only years of therapy and maybe a great plastic surgeon could even begin to erase. But maybe we can help you muster up enough courage to get nekkid in front of a guy with these 10 points:

1. Know that it’s not as bad as you think. Yes, we know, it’s bad. But it could be worse (a basketball-sized goiter…or a tail).
2. Do NOT say, “Hey, would this be a big deal?” In a perfect world, we’d tell you to say absolutely nothing and just act like you’re totally comfortable in your own skin. But we understand the impulse to want to publicly acknowledge the disappointment you have in your own body. For this reason, you may make a self-deprecating, jokey comment ONCE about you two being in different body classes before you do it. But you may NOT whine, complain, ask for reassurance, or go on and on about your bad body to him. At least not as a part of foreplay.
3. Just act like you’re totally comfortable in your own skin. It's a cliche because it’s true. Confidence is sexy, self-consciousness is not, so fake it if you have to. Make like a honey badger and don’t give a s---. Because pretending you don’t give a s--- is the best way to come as close as possible to really not giving a s---.
4. Turn the lights off. Do it at night. Keep some clothes on. Stay under the sheets. There’s no need to hit the overhead florescents and start doing jumping jacks in front of him.
5. Stick with the missionary position. So you have gravity working for you, not against you.
6. Break open a bottle of wine. We’re not saying get blotto, but if it’s going to happen, a nice little buzz beforehand may make you (and him) not care so much.
7. Don’t let your self-hatred make you miss out on life. Even if you do it and it sucks, chances are on your death bed you won’t be saying “I really shouldn’t have slept with that smokin’ hot guy I was really into and who I got along great with.” But it you don’t do it, you might end up saying “I wonder what would have happened if I’d slept with that smokin’ hot guy I was really into and who I got along great with.”
8. Not to pile on, but remember that there are other things to worry about. Sure, it may not work out. But there are plenty of things besides your less than perfect body that might get in the way, like the fact that he’s not that great in bed, that you have incompatible astrological signs, that it turns out you really don’t like him as much as you thought….
9. Have sex like a dude. Make like a man and hook up with a hottie if the opportunity presents itself without shame, reservation or (too much) self-reflection. Don’t worry about him and what he’s thinking; instead focus on your pleasure and how pumped you’ll be to be able to tell your friends you did it with a smoke show.
10. Use sex as a litmus test. If you do it and your body is a deal breaker for him, then consider yourself lucky that you found out what a superficial, shallow prick he is early on.

We know this isn’t ideal, perfect-world, politically correct, aspirational advice, which is the kind of stuff we usually go gaga for around these here parts. But this is one case where we’re willing to come down from the rafters and get our hands in the dirt: women’s body image issues rae emotionally messy stuff — imperfect and un-pretty. But hopefully, when we all talk openly and honestly about how f--- ed up it is, we’ll all be a little easier on ourselves and allow ourselves to enjoy our bodies and their potential pleasures a little more